Finding You: Chapter One - Time: It's About the Journey, Not the Destination

I know, I know – the title might sound like a worn-out cliché, something you've heard a million times over. But bear with me, because when we truly absorb the essence behind these words, our lives take on a whole new hue. Before we dive in, take a moment to revisit the introduction of "Finding You" to grasp the soul of this post fully.

What do you think on Your Deathbed?

Picture this: you're lying on your deathbed right now. What's the first thing that springs to mind? Money? Achievements? The trophies and accolades lining your shelf? Perhaps, but more often than not, it's the faces of those who walked beside you on this journey we call life – the loved ones, the laughter, the shared moments of joy. Naturally, when reflecting on their lives, many folks find themselves dwelling on regrets — those moments where they wish they'd invested more time in connecting with loved ones or seizing opportunities for deeper connections. In these moments of introspection, we yearn for more time to mend bridges and prioritize what truly matters to us, recognizing the value in nurturing relationships and pursuing what brings genuine fulfillment.

Time, they say, is our most valuable asset. But in the hustle and bustle of modern life, it's easy to lose sight of its true worth. We find ourselves ensnared in the relentless pursuit of wealth, chasing after societal markers of success, while our essence languishes in the shadows of conformity.

"Time is our most valuable asset, yet it's easy to lose sight of its true worth in the pursuit of external success."

Recently I watched a masterpiece anime that took the internet by storm with all positive and life-changing feelings, "Frieren: Beyond Journey's End," and let me tell you, it's truly remarkable. This show isn't just your typical adventure flick; it's a profound exploration of life, time, and the human experience. At its heart is Frieren, an immortal elf girl who grapples with the weight of time and regret. Through her journey, we're taken on a rollercoaster ride of emotions as we witness her longing for the moments she failed to cherish with her companions. It's a tender reminder of the fragility of time and the importance of seizing every precious moment.

But what truly sets "Frieren" apart is its ability to weave a narrative that resonates on a soul-deep level. As Frieren reflects on her decade-long odyssey, we're drawn into a world where the passage of time isn't just a concept but a tangible force shaping our very existence. And then there's "Himmel," a character whose wisdom echoes throughout the series. Through his guidance, we're reminded of the beauty inherent in life's journey, urging us never to take it for granted. So, if you're looking for a show that'll make you ponder the intricacies of life, "Frieren: Beyond Journey's End" is your ticket. Trust me, it's not just entertainment; it's a transformative experience waiting to unfold.

Regretting and Reminiscing about the Past

In today's fast-paced world, it's all too easy to overlook the significance of our relationships, from cherished friendships to the bonds within our families. Often, we fail to recognize the value of these connections until they're no longer within our grasp, leaving us with a sense of remorse. Are we truly honoring those who care for us, those who invest their time in us? And are we dedicating our time to pursuits that bring us genuine joy and fulfillment?

“To know the value of having first we must lose it.” In our quest for simplicity, we often find ourselves mirroring the actions of others, avoiding life's complexities. Yet, deep down, we yearn for lives that resemble the vivid narratives portrayed in movies. We long for the vibrancy, the drama, and the sheer colorfulness that seems to define cinematic stories. But here's the thing: movies are not fantasies detached from reality; they are crafted from the fabric of our own experiences. The characters, the conflicts, the triumphs—they all echo the intricacies of our lives in one way or another. So why not take a cue from the movies and infuse our own stories with the same richness?

"To truly appreciate what we have, sometimes we must experience its absence."

Instead of settling for a mundane existence, we can seize the opportunity to transform our lives into masterpieces, filled with adventure, passion, and purpose. Rather than lamenting the absence of cinematic flair, let's embrace the power we hold to script our own narratives. It's time to step into the spotlight and write stories worth telling—stories that captivate, inspire, and leave a lasting impression on those around us. After all, life is the greatest screenplay ever written, and we have the power to make it a blockbuster.

Many of us entertain fantasies of rewinding the clock, rewriting the chapters of our relationships — with friends, family, or partners — in the hope of a different outcome. Whether it's the loss of a loved one, unresolved conflicts with friends, or drifting apart from those we hold dear, these regrets weigh heavy on our hearts. Looking ahead, we may find ourselves in a similar position in the next decade, yearning to alter the course of our present circumstances. But if we fail to cherish our time and invest in meaningful connections, we risk repeating these patterns of regret.

While some mistakes are irreversible — such as the loss of loved ones — we can still find solace in reminiscing about the moments we shared, treasuring their memory as we strive for happiness and resilience in the face of adversity.

Don't let your present haunt you in the future; don't let this present be regretful in the future; don't let this present slip away from your hands.

Returning to the story of Frieren, our elven protagonist, we witness her struggle to recognize the significance of her time spent alongside Hemel, the valiant hero, during their ten-year adventure. For Frieren, time may be but a fleeting aspect of her eternal existence, yet upon Hemel's passing, she's overcome with regret, longing for the opportunity to express her love and appreciation. Let us heed this lesson from Frieren's journey, striving to value the people in our lives and avoid the pain of regret by embracing moments of connection and affection.

If we find ourselves in a place of regret, unable to change the past, all we can do is cherish the memories, learn from our mistakes, and strive to do better. It's in these moments of reflection that we recognize the importance of valuing the good people around us, much like Frieren exemplifies in the first season of the series.

But beyond just reminiscing, we have the power to transform those regrets into catalysts for growth. By acknowledging our missteps and the impact they've had on our relationships, we can take proactive steps to mend what's broken, to strengthen our connections, and to foster a deeper sense of appreciation for the people who enrich our lives.

Let Frieren's journey serve as a reminder that it's never too late to rewrite our story, to embrace vulnerability, and to cultivate the meaningful relationships that make life truly fulfilling. So let's not merely dwell on the past; let's use it as a springboard for a brighter, more connected future.

The same principles extend to our professional endeavors and the choices we make in life. It's crucial to ensure that our work aligns with our values and aspirations to avoid future regrets. While we understand the competitiveness of the world and the necessity of sometimes taking on jobs we may not be passionate about for survival, this shouldn't translate into a lifetime of pursuing solely monetary gains.

"True fulfillment comes from following our passions and engaging in work that brings us joy and purpose."

Some may have a plan to defer pursuing their true passions until retirement, spending the majority of their lives chasing financial success in roles that provide little personal fulfillment. However, this approach risks squandering the precious time we have. What's the point if we achieve financial success but lack fulfillment and happiness, only to face the possibility of an early demise?

While financial stability is essential, it shouldn't come at the cost of our happiness and satisfaction in life. Money may afford us certain freedoms, but it doesn't guarantee happiness. True fulfillment comes from following our passions and engaging in work that brings us joy and purpose.

Don't Just Exist, Thrive: Embracing the Present for a Fulfilling Life

Watching hours of reels calling it entertainment, maintaining Snapchat streaks calling it connected, partying going to pubs calling it a deep connection with humans, making immaturity as an attitude, staying in a safe comfort zone as maturity, many of these things, if we think deeply for just a minute, we realize this is not the way to live. The essence of life is not found in these things; it's found in relationships, passions, love, and forgiveness.

To truly enjoy the present, first, we must understand what truly holds value for us and what life, in general, is about. Take a moment to journey back to your school days. What stands out in your memory? Is it the countless hours spent buried in textbooks, striving for that elusive top score? Or is it the laughter, the friendships forged, and the lessons learned through the highs and lows of adolescence? Think about what holds more value to you now: the academic achievements or the enduring bonds you formed, the experiences that shaped who you are today. This isn't to discount the importance of education or professional success. Rather, it's a gentle reminder to cherish the richness of life beyond the confines of grades and career aspirations. It's about striking a balance between our ambitions and the meaningful connections that fuel our souls.

"The cost of our success should not be regrets; if it is, then the success does not matter."

It's our choice, at least try to appreciate and spend time with the person who values us rather than scrolling reels infinitely. Let's not allow the present moment to slip through our fingers, only to be regretted in the future. Think about what creates memories when we look back into our past. Let's embrace each day as an opportunity to create memories, to cultivate relationships, and to find joy in the simple pleasures that enrich our lives. As we navigate our daily interactions, let's be mindful of the emotions swirling around us. Take the time to truly connect with the people who matter most, to share in their triumphs and offer solace in their struggles. After all, it's these moments of genuine connection that infuse our lives with meaning and purpose. Remember, you're not wasting your time if you're spending it with the people who bring you joy, the people who make your heart sing. So let's embrace the present moment with open arms, knowing that the memories we create today will be the stories we cherish tomorrow.

"Remember, you're not wasting your time if you're spending it with the people who bring you joy, the people who make your heart sing."

Having goals and following them is amazing, but in order to achieve this, you must not forget yourself and lose your loved ones, and also our journey to success is also important; the cost of our success should not be regrets. If it is, then the success does not matter. Take the time to listen, to empathize, and to celebrate the victories of those around you. In doing so, you not only enrich your own life but also contribute to the tapestry of human connection. And amidst the chaos of modern living, don't overlook the power of forgiveness. Are there bridges in your life that are in need of repair? Is there someone you've been meaning to reach out to, but pride has held you back? Embrace the vulnerability that comes with extending an olive branch, for in forgiveness lies the key to liberation.

It's not merely about reaching the destination but savoring each moment along the journey. Time affords us the opportunity to cultivate meaningful connections, pursue our passions, and craft stories worth telling. So, let's embrace the present, honor the past, and shape a future filled with fulfillment, knowing that time is the essence of our existence.

"Life is not solely about reaching the destination; it's about relishing the journey, ideally alongside cherished companions and engaged in pursuits that ignite our passions."